Imagine one of those fluffy grass seeds that were so common those lazy summers of our childhood in Manila. Or maybe an individual dandelion puff.
Picture one in the center of your palm. Don't close your fist. Hold your palm flat or slightly curved. Cradle that seed.
Close your eyes. Remember all the things that you want to let go. Or focus on only one. A person. Of course, it's always a person. Think of all the things about him that make you hold on to him. Let them flash in your mind one-by-one. Laugh if you feel like it. Cry if you need to. Make sure that you include every detail.
Now, try to push all these thoughts and memories into the seed cupped in your palm. You still have that seed don't you? If you've crushed it or forgotten about it, go back to the first paragraph.
Infuse that seed with everything that you want to let go. The weight of the years and the intensity of your feelings might make you think that the seed can't hold it all in, but it will. Trust me.
When you are sure that you have cleaned out your mind very well, and have not kept a secret stash of memories somewhere else, say your goodbyes. Say it because you need closure. Say all you need to say, all that you have kept inside for so long. The words need to go as well. The seed has more than enough room.
When all this is done, you are ready.
Hold your hand completely flat and blow on the seed. Watch it fly away, rising into the air.
Turn away before it descends. You don't need to know where it goes or where it lands.
You have let it go and it is no longer yours.
You have let him go and he is no longer yours
Feel the depth of emptiness. Don't worry about it. You will soon fill it up with other memories.
